Don’t stalk your ex on Venmo

Hello again! Just another prideful article from Katherine M. Blanner about breakups.

There’s really not much worse than a breakup. You’re facing the true heartache, the truest form of rejection, and the absolute tragedy that is ending things with a long-term significant other.

Here’s my gift to you… an article about how you have to survive breakups. It’s like a virtual breakup care package.

  1. Change something about yourself. The past is dead, and so is that version of you. Get a haircut, dye your hair, get a new wardrobe. Whatever. Do that one thing that you told your ex about in confidence that they rejected. Be modest, though. If you go too crazy, you’ll look crazy.
  2. Make a breakup playlist. Find solace in songs. My favorite is this: 
  1. Do NOT stalk your ex on anything… If things went south, it might be a great idea to actually block them on a lot of stuff. I’m talking Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, and Venmo if you have to. Don’t revisit the past. Revisiting that situation is like smoking cigarettes when you’re already on chemo for lung cancer. It’s… bad. 
  2. Delete all your Snapchat memories. Delete their pictures in your phone. If you’re uncomfortable with that, upload them to your computer in a secret, password protected folder. Don’t open it. 
  3. Remember you’re goddamn gorgeous because you need to know that again.
  4. Find a new hobby. 
  5. Rekindle all the friendships you lost because of the attention and time your manchild needed. They’ll probably be forgiving to you, because they have had gross boyfriends, too. Plus it also helps that they all hated him from day one but were too polite to tell you.
  6. Forgive him, forgive that situation, and forgive that part of your life.
  7. Make sure that, even if you can’t fully forgive them, that you take steps to find your own inner peace.
  8. Let yourself feel things again.

These are just some ideas that I have compiled over the years. What’s your go-to breakup coping?

How to Manage, Market, and Maintain a Creative Photography Business (and not lose your mind)

I have failed so many times with my business. I am by no means an expert. But, I have owned my own little photography side hustle since the age of seventeen and with many clients, failures, trial and a lot of error, and degrees in business communication and English writing from Rockhurst University, I think I finally got it (mostly) right. This is going to be a lonnnng article, so buckle up and get ready for a wild ride with me.


Why is learning about business so important?

One of the best pieces of advice that I ever received was from my old boss, Michael Wilson, who was the founder of a luxury watch company, NIALL Luxury. He told me “Most creatives fail at taking direction.” While this phrase is indeed not applicable to all, it is an incredibly important thing to take into consideration.


Skills in photography and art, in general, are much different from skills in business. In a lot of ways, your skills in photography can take you very far. However, skills in business can propel you even farther than you ever thought you could go.


The difference between art and business is pretty easy to see. For starters, creativity relies almost entirely on whims and moments. Business, on the other hand, can be a lot more structured, demanding, and not as fun. But a healthy business has a proper dosage of both, which is what inspired me to write this.


Let’s be honest, I am not the best photographer. I try hard to capture good moments and edit them beautifully, but I’m not top dog. I don’t think I ever will be, and that’s perfectly fine by me.


A lot of the success I have had from photography has not been because my work speaks for itself, but rather because I speak for my work. Communicating my thoughts, ideas, and worth as a businesswoman has proven to take me much much further than anything else has. In the past year of my life, I have photographed three seasons of Kansas City Fashion Week, one season of New York Fashion Week, collaborated with numerous brands, and photographed a lotttt of weddings. I don’t think I would have done any of those things if I had just let my work speak for itself. That’s not to toot my own horn, though. I still have so much to learn, and a lot farther to go on this journey.


Had I had any resources for starting a business when I got into this thing, I might not have made all the mistakes I did along the way. I made these mistakes so you don’t have to! I just want to spread the knowledge and love. I hope that everyone, me included, can learn a thing or two from opening the discussion on best practices in business when it comes to creative fields.


Relationship Advice

If you’re a photographer, chances are that you’re going to have to capture someone’s defining life moments. Whether it’s the birth of a child, a marriage, senior pictures, or product photography, you’re going to be there for something monumental. Having a relationship with the people that you photograph is not only crucial to getting better shots, but it’s also a great way to build or destroy your business.

Work your way up. If you want to do fashion, contact local fashion magazines. If you are interested in shooting weddings, put a call out to some of your friends who might be getting married and build up your portfolio. When I first started my business, I would just ask my friends or family if I could bring my camera to their wedding to shoot a few things.


Get Out There

Your photography shouldn’t just live on Instagram or a Facebook page. It needs to be real and tangible in a way for other people to see and experience. As I said, the reason that I have gotten as far as I did with photography is not that I let my work speak for itself, but because I spoke for my work. You have to network locally before you can take yourself and your work far.


Milk those Facebook groups of local photographers. Find friends that are photographers, models, artists, and other visual content creators and network with them over coffee.


The Four P’s of Marketing

If there’s one thing that they drill into you in business school, it’s the four P’s of marketing. They’re pretty simple to remember, they go as follows:

  • Product
  • Place
  • Promotion
  • Price


So it’s pretty easy to knock out Product and Price. Just know what you like shooting, and that’s your product. The price is entirely up to you, just set it as you see fit. If you want a good idea of how I set my prices, click here. I set them according to my expenses that I have and how much time I spend on each photograph. Everyone is different. My prices work for me, but they don’t have to be the ones that you set for yourself. That’s up to your discretion.


Promotion is an entirely different beast. I don’t personally spend any money marketing or promoting my posts on social media. I have a Facebook page and an Instagram. To gain an audience, I just tag the people I have in my shoots and ask them for photo credits on both Facebook and Instagram. I use hashtags on Instagram.


That being said, it is still a dandy idea to promote yourself with paid ads on social media. It can reach a lot more people than you would otherwise and can help a business grow exponentially. You have to spend a little to earn a little. I know you can set a budget, time limit, and audience for your ads that are tailored to what you are looking for.


Make sure that your visuals are curated to your audience and a good representation of your brand. Invest in a good, creative logo. You won’t regret it. I doodled mine on an iPad. You can go to the website Fiverr to find and hire a graphic designer to make you an excellent little logo with a quick turnaround time! Or you can make one yourself easily with the website Canva.


Get your money right

Keep an Excel Spreadsheet of everything you earn from your business. Sounds simple enough, right? This will come in SO handy if you want to register your business as LLC and be accountable before the government, come tax time in April. If you just want to keep your freelancing under the radar and do not choose to register an LLC, it might still be a great idea to keep track of your income and expenses so you can set your prices according to what you spend and what you can earn.


Remember that if a client wants work done for free, to do that work at your discretion. Everyone needs to pay their bills at the end of the day, and it’s a good idea to keep that in mind if someone wants to work with you because “it’ll be great exposure.” I tend to shy away from these kinds of shoots, mostly because I have yet to find them mutually beneficial. However, doing work without getting paid is a decision that everyone needs to personally make.


Please write a contract. I beg of you.

If you’re shooting a big wedding, photographing for an event, or doing work with a company, please please remember to write a contract with them. Contracts are an easy way to communicate with clients the expectations for compensation and services. It keeps both parties accountable for their own set of expectations, as well as ensures that you get paid.


If you want an example of the contracts I make for weddings that I have shot, click here.


Don’t lose your mind

The one thing that I wish I knew before owning my own business is this: It’s okay to say no. You don’t have to say yes to every project that comes across the table. Maybe you don’t have the problem with saying yes that I do, but for my fellow people who can’t say no, please know that it’s okay to be selective. I have found that being selective is the best way to create visuals and content that I am passionate about, and that keeps me from going a little bit crazy. Quantity and quality are not the same things.


To Conclude

While all of my tips are tricks are curated explicitly towards photographers, it is nevertheless essential for anyone who is in a creative field doing contract or freelance work to remember that there is a vital side of the understanding business. Ultimately, it benefits both you and the client, encourages future relationships, and helps bring home the bacon. That being said, these are the things that I have personally found to work for me, and not all of them are going to be universally applicable or helpful. I want to encourage the conversation to keep going. If you would like to chat more about ways that you have noticed your photography or creative business grow, please feel free to comment them below and we can chat! If I got something incorrect, please constructively let me know.


Chicago 2017

I had a day off of work. My sister had a day off of work. We decided, one morning as we woke up in St. Louis, MO, that we would go to sleep in Chicago, IL that night. The only thing that stood between us was a five hour drive. Sure, part of my car’s exhaust pipe fell off on the way there, and sure we barely slept, and yes we got lost about 2,405 times, but we had a great day in Chicago. Below are some photographs from the trip’s adventures. [Nikon D7000 with a 50mm lens is my go-to set up for travel photography, as it is light and discreet.]


Published Works

The first link here is a creative poem, called “La Lune” that I wrote and got published in “The Moon Zine,” which is based out of St. Louis, in September of 2016. I wrote it to convey the importance of a particular person in my life, which was my best friend at the time. You will notice that the strange and random capitalization of letters is a stylistic poetic choice, or maybe I’m just bad at capitalizing.
Another poem I got published in the final rendition of the Moon Zine is entitled “11/11/18.” It’s about being torn between things that the narrator says and things that the narrator dreams. The title is just the date that I wrote it. Page 24.
In September of 2018, I was named a Missouri Emerging Author by a small publishing company called Z Publishing. I’m published in their anthology. It’s on Amazon.
In March of 2019, I was named a Missouri Emerging Author by Z Publishing for my work in flash fiction. It’s published in their anthology, which is also available on Amazon. But don’t buy it, don’t make it weird.
I got a long poem published in Warm Soda Magazine in October of 2019:


I currently work at eSpecial Needs, and I write blogs and research articles for part of my job as a marketing coordinator. 

Here’s what I like to call my pride and joy: a heavily researched article to help parents understand their kiddo with a dual diagnosis of anxiety and autism. A big shout out to my med school friend, Brendan Daly, my co-worker Kalinda Horton, and my co-worker and OT friend Emily Martin for helping me write this beast of an article. 

This piece entails an interview I had for my internship with the Archdiocese of St. Louis with the director of the office of Young Adult Ministry.
The second link is an article that I wrote for The Odyssey Online, which is a collegiate lifestyle website that has a branch of Rockhurst University writers. I wrote for this website for almost three years, and I have continually produced 500-word articles. The article that I have chosen to link to below is a lifestyle article that I wrote that regards the peculiarities of dating in college. I really liked writing articles about dating, even though I really suck at it. This particular article, while it may not be pertinent to you, was very well received for my particular audience base, as I have found that millennials in the university level have a difficult time with finding security in themselves. While I understand that The Odyssey Online is a website that was mainly designed for click-bait type articles that are filled with GIF’s and things that the audience is supposed to relate to, I make a conscious effort, as a writer for the website, to make my articles meaningful and appealing to a variety of audiences by using a combination of elevated and simplistic diction.
(To see more of my articles besides this one, click here: )


The third and final link is a journalistic article that I wrote for my school’s newspaper, The Sentinel. The piece directs the idea of the “stupid” or “uninformed millennial” by attempting to show the reader, through evidence through interviews, that college students are mostly not misinformed.


In addition to writing, I am also proficient at editing. I was the editor in chief of a literary magazine, Infectus, for two years.